I like how the last time I posted I talked about how I was going to be a good little blogger and post more often. But did that happen? No, of course not. Since my last post,
- I finally finished my monster of a paper, got an A on it, and there are even talks about it being published which I am all like "yay!" about, but it really isn't that great of a paper in my opinion so I won't be too broken up about it if it doesn't happen.
- I graduated law school. 3 years sure does go by fast.
- I studied for the bar. Took the bar. Oh, and did I say pass the bar? Cuz, yeah I passed the bar. (A post about that will be posted today today)
- I got married. Yep, finally. We eloped. We haven't gotten any pictures back yet though, (2 weeks!!) - so all we have is the one picture my then-fiance took of me before we left to city hall. I'll post that later today too.
- I started work and I've been doing that about 70 hours a week since I started.
So...yes, I guess you can say I have been super busy. Today, I plan on posting all the posts I wrote over the summer but never actually ever posted. Hope you like these because I may not be back for a while.
Friday, October 22, 2010
Monday, March 15, 2010
The Man Band
Buying a band for the Mr was simple and a waste of time all rolled into one. He knew what he wanted and what he wanted the band to feel like on his finger. Well they didn’t have it, and because he wanted thin tungsten, it was impossible to think that he would ever get it. But instead of obsessing like me, he moved on to the band that fit the best and got it in white gold. Amazing. It took about 10 minutes.
So why was this 10 minutes a waste of time? Well, it wasn’t a total waste because I got one of my rings cleaned while we waited but a waste because the Mr. will never wear the ring! He’s a mechanic- he can’t wear it to work and I understand that, so M-F no ring will be worn. That leaves the weekend for him to get used to wearing jewelry!- I bought him a watch once, he wore it once and lost it within 2 weeks. Realistically, I know that he will never wear it and I’m okay with that but why even get it?
He was so/so about getting it and I didn’t want to waste the money- I mean, that’s $374 that could go towards something for me! But maybe one day, like in 30 years when we retire, he will finally wear the ring. His fingers will probably be fatter by then so we could just give it to one of the grandkids, I mean old rings have a purpose right?
So why was this 10 minutes a waste of time? Well, it wasn’t a total waste because I got one of my rings cleaned while we waited but a waste because the Mr. will never wear the ring! He’s a mechanic- he can’t wear it to work and I understand that, so M-F no ring will be worn. That leaves the weekend for him to get used to wearing jewelry!- I bought him a watch once, he wore it once and lost it within 2 weeks. Realistically, I know that he will never wear it and I’m okay with that but why even get it?
He was so/so about getting it and I didn’t want to waste the money- I mean, that’s $374 that could go towards something for me! But maybe one day, like in 30 years when we retire, he will finally wear the ring. His fingers will probably be fatter by then so we could just give it to one of the grandkids, I mean old rings have a purpose right?
Wednesday, March 10, 2010
Bride wears a suit, say wha?
Yeah, that is exactly what 97% of my friends said when I said I was going to wear a suit for my wedding.
“What, you mean like a pants suit?”
-No, not at all. I’ve seen it done and I’ve seen it done well but it’s not me.
“Like Carrie in the Sex & the City movie?”
- A. I’ve never seen sex and the city anything, but I went home and googled it for a picture (see below)…so,
- B. kind of
“I just don’t understand”
- See, the thing is, I don’t need you to understand. I’m not marrying you!
Funny thing is, I never told my mom about this whole suit thing because she would freak. But I knew that after she saw how marvelous I looked in the pictures she would get over it.
The thing is, a bride wearing a suit really isn’t so unorthodox. I mean, sure it is now but that’s because the bridal industry doesn’t necessarily want you to think outside the box. Many brides in the 40’s were married in suits. Hell, Katherine Hepburn and Marilyn Monroe were and I feel like at least one of Liz Taylor’s weddings had to feature her in a suit too. These weddings though were simple ceremony’s- not grand affairs worthy of Platinum Wedding status. A suit for a city hall wedding just sounds perfectly right.
Well kiddos, you should know that I am in love with peplum’s. They emphasis your hips and make you look all lady like. I love my body shape even though I gained 20 pounds during law school so I like that the peplum helps me love what I love about myself. Plus, they have been everywhere lately.
My initial idea was to take a suit like this Juicy Couture one, have it custom made in a cream or even light pink, with a much bigger peplum and a little mini-er skirt. This would look perfect with my bubble veil, louibiton platform heels, ruffle collared shirt, and 3 layered j. crew necklaces (symphony, opera length pearl necklace, and ???). I loved this and was all about it even though my friends didn’t get it. 2 of them though said “Yeah, that is SO you”.
And it is so me. But am I going to do it? No.
It’s not because the Mr. had a problem with it, because he didn’t. It’s because I fell in love with a dress. Bah humbug. I was really sad to fall in love with a dress. I wondered if I could have it custom made by Milly Bridal into a peplum style. “That would be amazing!” I thought. But the more I sat and wondered, the more I realized that the dress wouldn’t look good as a Peplum. So what’s the dress? This gorgeous Stephen Yearick design. Da Da DAAA.
I still don’t like the dress completely as it is which is why I plan on getting it custom made. I want a scoopneck, not a V-neck and I want to be scandoulous with a low back.. Plus I have really cute thin calves and so maybe my dress should be shorter. I really still haven’t made up my mind but in the end, I hope the Stephen Yearick just serves as inspiration.
Still though, I wish I could have 2 weddings so I could wear my suit. Any photographers out there want to just do a test shoot for fun with a bride in a mini skirt peplum suit? Eh, probably not.
I am still going to incorporate menswear into my wedding day wardrobe though. I bet you can’t guess what it is.
“What, you mean like a pants suit?”
-No, not at all. I’ve seen it done and I’ve seen it done well but it’s not me.
“Like Carrie in the Sex & the City movie?”
- A. I’ve never seen sex and the city anything, but I went home and googled it for a picture (see below)…so,
- B. kind of
“I just don’t understand”
- See, the thing is, I don’t need you to understand. I’m not marrying you!
Funny thing is, I never told my mom about this whole suit thing because she would freak. But I knew that after she saw how marvelous I looked in the pictures she would get over it.
The thing is, a bride wearing a suit really isn’t so unorthodox. I mean, sure it is now but that’s because the bridal industry doesn’t necessarily want you to think outside the box. Many brides in the 40’s were married in suits. Hell, Katherine Hepburn and Marilyn Monroe were and I feel like at least one of Liz Taylor’s weddings had to feature her in a suit too. These weddings though were simple ceremony’s- not grand affairs worthy of Platinum Wedding status. A suit for a city hall wedding just sounds perfectly right.
Well kiddos, you should know that I am in love with peplum’s. They emphasis your hips and make you look all lady like. I love my body shape even though I gained 20 pounds during law school so I like that the peplum helps me love what I love about myself. Plus, they have been everywhere lately.
My initial idea was to take a suit like this Juicy Couture one, have it custom made in a cream or even light pink, with a much bigger peplum and a little mini-er skirt. This would look perfect with my bubble veil, louibiton platform heels, ruffle collared shirt, and 3 layered j. crew necklaces (symphony, opera length pearl necklace, and ???). I loved this and was all about it even though my friends didn’t get it. 2 of them though said “Yeah, that is SO you”. And it is so me. But am I going to do it? No.
It’s not because the Mr. had a problem with it, because he didn’t. It’s because I fell in love with a dress. Bah humbug. I was really sad to fall in love with a dress. I wondered if I could have it custom made by Milly Bridal into a peplum style. “That would be amazing!” I thought. But the more I sat and wondered, the more I realized that the dress wouldn’t look good as a Peplum. So what’s the dress? This gorgeous Stephen Yearick design. Da Da DAAA.
I still don’t like the dress completely as it is which is why I plan on getting it custom made. I want a scoopneck, not a V-neck and I want to be scandoulous with a low back.. Plus I have really cute thin calves and so maybe my dress should be shorter. I really still haven’t made up my mind but in the end, I hope the Stephen Yearick just serves as inspiration.
Still though, I wish I could have 2 weddings so I could wear my suit. Any photographers out there want to just do a test shoot for fun with a bride in a mini skirt peplum suit? Eh, probably not.
I am still going to incorporate menswear into my wedding day wardrobe though. I bet you can’t guess what it is.
Monday, March 8, 2010
The Guide to Eloping
I'm a girl. I like to make lists. My day is one big list. Sure, I do things that aren't on the list but then I gain 5 pounds- like the tub of cookies and cream ice cream that magically appeared in my cart, but wasn't on any list I wrote. Of course I had to go ahead and get the ice cream though- it magically appeared! Therefore, it's magic ice cream and that is Ah-mazing. Can't pass up magical ice cream, nuh uh. Nope.
Anywho, through my process of planning my elopement, I've written many many lists and because I've done that I can now pass on my craziness to you- in list form! Yay!
Before you, or below this, is a guide to eloping. It doesn't have to be done in order- it's not that type of list. You can skip over some things- yeah, it's a pretty awesome list. Now, after you read my list, go out, be a girl, a make lists of your own. Really awesome lists.
The Guide to Eloping
1. Pick a photographer
2. Pick a location
3. Pick a time frame/ date.
-- Now, the first three are pretty interchangeable as to what order you should do them in and it really just depends on what is more important to you. We already knew that the wedding would take place in San Francisco at City Hall, and the time frame would have to be before the bar exam but before I started work which gave me a good week and a half for a wedding. Since Photography is my #1 concern, want, and desire I emailed a bunch of great San Franciscan area photographers about their availability on my date and their quotes. Essentially, I let the photographer pick the day.
You'll have to do a lot of research since the wedding isn't local and you can't just drive by to find out about a venue and their policies, plus you need to find out how to get a marriage license too. Don't be afraid of all the various opinion sites and message boards out there. They are there to help you, so use them!
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4. Book the trip!
-- The earlier you do this the better, although it may be worth the wait depending on where you are going. For example, it's cheaper to come to Florida in the summer time because duh!- no one wants to be here in the summer. It's humid and hot and sticky and did I mention hot? It's more expensive to go to Omaha in the summer because of the College World Series. There are also websites like airfare watchdog that will tell you if fares are going to increase or decrease within the next couple of weeks.
Also, shop around. Try different days and combinations and vacation packages are always the best way to save. You may find that flying out of a different airport or staying in a hotel just outside of town might save you some serious dough. We did this exactly through Priceline and got hotel, airfare, and car rental for 4 days for less than $920! And yes, that is for both of us and including tax. The down side is that when you get a package that sweet it comes with things like layovers. For about $300 more I could have gotten no layovers but it really wasn't worth it for us when I considered how much money I was spending in other areas.
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5. Get the clothes and accessories.
---This includes hair and makeup. Your best bet when it comes to eloping, unless you know someone where you are going is to do your own hair and makeup. Chances are, you wont have a day or two before the ceremony to get a consultation so it may be that you are taking a big risk to get everything professionally done the day of. This wont apply though if want you want isn't super complicated. I decided to get makeup lessons in advance so I can try different things and actually know what I'm doing the day of. As for my hair, I usually do my hair myself for everything anyway so I will do mini-consultations with myself to try it out. Of course, the day of, my hair probably won't come out as perfect as it did during try #16 but still, I don't care and I'm realistic.
---
6. Tell the family and friends
--Depending on your circumstances, you may or may not want to do this. It may just be easier to elope and then deal with family and friends later. We decided to tell out family because after a foreverly long engagement it was about time. My friends were more upset than my family- they tried to talk me into having a small ceremony here, but it wouldn't have been what I wanted so I politely ignored them.
---
7. Details
-- Like flowers and such.
8. Figure out what to do while you are there, how you are going to get around, and anything else your heart desires.
--- I got a lot of great ideas off my credit card's travel rewards like a helicopter tour, sunset dinner cruise, and a vineyard day trip.
--
9. Have fun, relax, and enjoy each other.
---That's the reason you are eloping anyway right?
Anywho, through my process of planning my elopement, I've written many many lists and because I've done that I can now pass on my craziness to you- in list form! Yay!
Before you, or below this, is a guide to eloping. It doesn't have to be done in order- it's not that type of list. You can skip over some things- yeah, it's a pretty awesome list. Now, after you read my list, go out, be a girl, a make lists of your own. Really awesome lists.
The Guide to Eloping
1. Pick a photographer
2. Pick a location
3. Pick a time frame/ date.
-- Now, the first three are pretty interchangeable as to what order you should do them in and it really just depends on what is more important to you. We already knew that the wedding would take place in San Francisco at City Hall, and the time frame would have to be before the bar exam but before I started work which gave me a good week and a half for a wedding. Since Photography is my #1 concern, want, and desire I emailed a bunch of great San Franciscan area photographers about their availability on my date and their quotes. Essentially, I let the photographer pick the day.
You'll have to do a lot of research since the wedding isn't local and you can't just drive by to find out about a venue and their policies, plus you need to find out how to get a marriage license too. Don't be afraid of all the various opinion sites and message boards out there. They are there to help you, so use them!
---
4. Book the trip!
-- The earlier you do this the better, although it may be worth the wait depending on where you are going. For example, it's cheaper to come to Florida in the summer time because duh!- no one wants to be here in the summer. It's humid and hot and sticky and did I mention hot? It's more expensive to go to Omaha in the summer because of the College World Series. There are also websites like airfare watchdog that will tell you if fares are going to increase or decrease within the next couple of weeks.
Also, shop around. Try different days and combinations and vacation packages are always the best way to save. You may find that flying out of a different airport or staying in a hotel just outside of town might save you some serious dough. We did this exactly through Priceline and got hotel, airfare, and car rental for 4 days for less than $920! And yes, that is for both of us and including tax. The down side is that when you get a package that sweet it comes with things like layovers. For about $300 more I could have gotten no layovers but it really wasn't worth it for us when I considered how much money I was spending in other areas.
---
5. Get the clothes and accessories.
---This includes hair and makeup. Your best bet when it comes to eloping, unless you know someone where you are going is to do your own hair and makeup. Chances are, you wont have a day or two before the ceremony to get a consultation so it may be that you are taking a big risk to get everything professionally done the day of. This wont apply though if want you want isn't super complicated. I decided to get makeup lessons in advance so I can try different things and actually know what I'm doing the day of. As for my hair, I usually do my hair myself for everything anyway so I will do mini-consultations with myself to try it out. Of course, the day of, my hair probably won't come out as perfect as it did during try #16 but still, I don't care and I'm realistic.
---
6. Tell the family and friends
--Depending on your circumstances, you may or may not want to do this. It may just be easier to elope and then deal with family and friends later. We decided to tell out family because after a foreverly long engagement it was about time. My friends were more upset than my family- they tried to talk me into having a small ceremony here, but it wouldn't have been what I wanted so I politely ignored them.
---
7. Details
-- Like flowers and such.
8. Figure out what to do while you are there, how you are going to get around, and anything else your heart desires.
--- I got a lot of great ideas off my credit card's travel rewards like a helicopter tour, sunset dinner cruise, and a vineyard day trip.
--
9. Have fun, relax, and enjoy each other.
---That's the reason you are eloping anyway right?
Friday, January 29, 2010
And here I go again on my own...or on our own
A lot has changed in an almost year.
Did we find our dream house yet? Nope. At first I was just looking because I had a down payment and a dream- for a while I thought that was all that mattered but I was wrong, and really stupid. Like really, money and a dream? Anywhoo, looking back I'm actually happy that we didn't settle on anything just yet. To be honest, in the time that we have had to think about what we want in a house, our wants and needs have gotten a whole lot clearer. I guess that's what they mean by impulse control. Look ma, I'm learnin! So we are just going to wait, even if that means the tax credit passes us by and we stay homeownerless for years. Finding a house is like finding a mate-I want it to be in my life forever and invest in it so it's worth taking the time to find the right one.
So why am I back then? Well my tag line still applies. I'm still a crazy law student, although that journey is almost over, and I am still on a quest for the perfect low- key laid back awesomely awesome wedding. And I have re-started this quest: to elope to San Francisco City Hall. So come with me and you'll be in a world of pure imagination, because I really want to name my daughter Violet and have a chocolate river.
Did we find our dream house yet? Nope. At first I was just looking because I had a down payment and a dream- for a while I thought that was all that mattered but I was wrong, and really stupid. Like really, money and a dream? Anywhoo, looking back I'm actually happy that we didn't settle on anything just yet. To be honest, in the time that we have had to think about what we want in a house, our wants and needs have gotten a whole lot clearer. I guess that's what they mean by impulse control. Look ma, I'm learnin! So we are just going to wait, even if that means the tax credit passes us by and we stay homeownerless for years. Finding a house is like finding a mate-I want it to be in my life forever and invest in it so it's worth taking the time to find the right one.
So why am I back then? Well my tag line still applies. I'm still a crazy law student, although that journey is almost over, and I am still on a quest for the perfect low- key laid back awesomely awesome wedding. And I have re-started this quest: to elope to San Francisco City Hall. So come with me and you'll be in a world of pure imagination, because I really want to name my daughter Violet and have a chocolate river.
Monday, May 18, 2009
Change of Plans
I'm finally done with finals which means that I am officially a 3L. Whoop Whoop! 1 more year to go and I am officially out of this beast.
But.....I have exciting news. We are "eloping" and buying a house instead of having a wedding. My mom suggested we just take the money instead, couple that with the 8K tax credit for first time buyers and ta da!- buy a house. And just like that we rolled with it. HGTV has become my new favorite channel- I get why my mom watches it all the time. We've been looking at houses so far I have only found "lukewarm" like. I wont settle, and if we don't find the house we want this year then we just keep looking until we do. The good thing though is that wedding planning didn't take away all my creativity. I have came up with a million things I want to do to my house. Install hardwood floors, paint a faux-wood garage door, have a reddish brown front door, make slip covers for my huge couch, make mirrored art deco style dressers...It seems like a lot but luckily I am marrying a man who actually knows how to do stuff, and sew. Amazing! Him and his dad re-did their kitchen themselves and re-tiled the entire pool area- not just the pool. This blog may turn into that adventure.
I found a place that I want to get married at and the MR. has agreed that it would be perfect. Even my mom agrees. So where? San Fransisco City Hall! It is absolutely gorgeous and I already bought a dress- the "Julianne" from J.Crew. Plus, California allows you to get a confidential wedding license which means no one can look at it unless they have a court order. In this day of identity theft something like that is worth getting. We still plan on taking engagement pictures though so I will upload them in Novemeber or so, because that is when we are doing them. Our wedding will turn into a wedding + mini honeymoon. And then we will have a reception/graduation party/ housewarming party when my family is in town for my law school graduation--- the one that is only a year away! Whoo hooo!
As for the date, we aren't sure. There are really only 2 times of the year where it can be done- Winter or Spring Break. I'm leaning more towards Spring though just because of how pretty it is in the San Fran area.
But first we have to have the house. :)
But.....I have exciting news. We are "eloping" and buying a house instead of having a wedding. My mom suggested we just take the money instead, couple that with the 8K tax credit for first time buyers and ta da!- buy a house. And just like that we rolled with it. HGTV has become my new favorite channel- I get why my mom watches it all the time. We've been looking at houses so far I have only found "lukewarm" like. I wont settle, and if we don't find the house we want this year then we just keep looking until we do. The good thing though is that wedding planning didn't take away all my creativity. I have came up with a million things I want to do to my house. Install hardwood floors, paint a faux-wood garage door, have a reddish brown front door, make slip covers for my huge couch, make mirrored art deco style dressers...It seems like a lot but luckily I am marrying a man who actually knows how to do stuff, and sew. Amazing! Him and his dad re-did their kitchen themselves and re-tiled the entire pool area- not just the pool. This blog may turn into that adventure.
I found a place that I want to get married at and the MR. has agreed that it would be perfect. Even my mom agrees. So where? San Fransisco City Hall! It is absolutely gorgeous and I already bought a dress- the "Julianne" from J.Crew. Plus, California allows you to get a confidential wedding license which means no one can look at it unless they have a court order. In this day of identity theft something like that is worth getting. We still plan on taking engagement pictures though so I will upload them in Novemeber or so, because that is when we are doing them. Our wedding will turn into a wedding + mini honeymoon. And then we will have a reception/graduation party/ housewarming party when my family is in town for my law school graduation--- the one that is only a year away! Whoo hooo!
As for the date, we aren't sure. There are really only 2 times of the year where it can be done- Winter or Spring Break. I'm leaning more towards Spring though just because of how pretty it is in the San Fran area.
But first we have to have the house. :)
Monday, May 4, 2009
If only I had 8 treadmills
The song "Here it Goes Again" by OK go has been a favorite of mine for a while but what really made me think of it today was because I was thinking of "first dance" songs for me and the Mr. I can dance because luckily the black side of me contributed enough to give me rhythm. The Mr. on the other hand is stereotypically white- he even claps off beat, and I really just hate dancing with him. Yes, I said hate. I love love to dance, but it becomes a chore to do it with him. I've tried working with him before but nothing ever improves so I have come to the conclusion that for our first dance we either:
a) don't do a dance which is a high high probability;
b) use someone else to dance with which is a not going to happen even though I've gotten offers because the first dance is supposed to be with me and the Mr. I may not agree with half of the wedding hoopla in the industry but that is one I subscribe to. Other dances, yes or maybe, but not the first dance; or
c) pick a song and dance that has a non-traditional way of dancing. And with that choice comes this song, this video, and this dance. I would jump at doing it in a heartbeat and I already know at least 6 people I could count on to do it with me even though all I need are 2. Plus, the Mr. agrees that it would be pretty awesome. Too bad Rock the Reception isn't on anymore because that would have been awesome to do. I wonder how I would get 8 treadmills on my own anyway, and what reception site would actually let me do it? Hmmmmm......
What type of dancing are you doing for your first?
a) don't do a dance which is a high high probability;
b) use someone else to dance with which is a not going to happen even though I've gotten offers because the first dance is supposed to be with me and the Mr. I may not agree with half of the wedding hoopla in the industry but that is one I subscribe to. Other dances, yes or maybe, but not the first dance; or
c) pick a song and dance that has a non-traditional way of dancing. And with that choice comes this song, this video, and this dance. I would jump at doing it in a heartbeat and I already know at least 6 people I could count on to do it with me even though all I need are 2. Plus, the Mr. agrees that it would be pretty awesome. Too bad Rock the Reception isn't on anymore because that would have been awesome to do. I wonder how I would get 8 treadmills on my own anyway, and what reception site would actually let me do it? Hmmmmm......
What type of dancing are you doing for your first?
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